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Studies have shown that primary caretakers of patients with long-term illnesses have higher rates of depression. They also get sick more often. You won't be able to take care of anyone else if you don't take care of yourself.
It can be very hard to give your child with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) the time he or she needs, while making sure the rest of your family isn't left out. But be sure to make time for yourself, too!
Ask other members of your support team for help. Ask a grandparent to babysit while you go out. Ask your child's doctor about support groups in your area. Join a gym that has childcare so your child will be looked after while you work out. It will be better for everyone if you give yourself some time, too.
The first step in self-care is to give yourself permission to explore your feelings and to adapt ways to cope with them.
Denial of ADHD
When a child is first diagnosed with ADHD, some parents may deny or minimize the disorder. They refuse to acknowledge that ADHD is a brain disorder. They desperately hold onto the idea that their child's behavior is something a little counseling or better parenting can correct.
How to cope
Get a second or even third opinion. Learn all you can about ADHD—read books, research the library or Internet, or join a local ADHD parent support group. The more you learn about ADHD, the more readily you will understand its nature, cause, and proper treatment.
Frustration about ADHD
It is common for parents to feel frustrated about their child's ADHD. Unfortunately, they often take their frustration out on teachers, doctors, friends, and family.
How to cope
It is easy to lash out, especially when we feel stressed. We usually end up regretting what we say or do in frustration. When you are feeling angry or frustrated, learn to delay your response. Step away from the situation. Take a few deep breaths before dealing with others.
Disappointment about ADHD
Feeling disappointed about your child's disorder is natural. You may be disappointed at the loss of a so-called "normal" family or for the future you had imagined for your child.
How to cope
Talk about your feelings with other parents of children with ADHD. Work to reframe your beliefs about the disorder. Your child may struggle with certain areas in his or her life, but he or she also has special talents and gifts too.
Isolation
Parents of children with ADHD often feel stuck, believing that they cannot take the child anywhere, that they are all alone, and that no one else faces these issues.
How to cope
Consider joining a support group for parents of children with ADHD. Or make a point of reaching out to friends you may have lost touch with and plan a social activity.
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Managing Your Time